Is it necessary to marry in life? What’s the physical relationship between man & woman? Krishnamurti

4th Question:
Is it necessary to marry in life? What is the physical relationship
between man and woman? I don’t know. You ought to know. What a strange question
this is, isn’t it? Is it necessary to marry in life? What do you say? If the speaker puts this question
to you, what will you answer? Is it necessary, sirs and ladies,
that I should marry? What would be your answer? Your answer probably would be, ‘Do what you want to do.
Why bother me with it? It’s up to you.’ But you see the question is really
much more complex than that. We all want companionship,
we all want sexual relationship, a biological necessity. And also we want somebody
on whom we can rely, in whom we can find security, in whom there is a sense
of comfort, support, because most of us cannot
stand alone on our own feet, therefore we say, ‘I must marry’, or I will have a girlfriend,
or whatever it is, ‘I must have somebody
with whom I can be at home’. We are never at home with anybody because we are living in our own
thoughts, in our own problems, our own ambitions and so on. And we are frightened to stand alone, because life is very lonely, life is very complex, troublesome, and one needs somebody with whom
you can talk things over. And also when you marry
you have sexual relationships, children and so on. So, in this relationship
between man and woman, if there is no love,
you use her and she uses you. You exploit her and she exploits you. That’s a fact. So, the questioner asks,
should one marry. And what is the physical
relationship between man – don’t you know the question? It’s up to you, sirs. But to really enter into
this whole complex problem of living together,
not only with two people, living together with humanity –
with your neighbour, with your boss, with your servant
if you have a servant, with your father, mother, children – to live together,
it’s a very complex thing. Living together as a family gives you
certain security, certain safety and so you extend
that family to a group, to a community, to a state,
to a nation, and from a nation which is
opposed to another nation, and so there is always division
and conflict, and wars. So one has to find out how to live
with another without any conflict, without any sense of struggle,
adaptation, adjustment. That requires a great deal
of intelligence, integrity. But we just marry off because of
sexual, biological demands and so on. Did you make up these questions?
They say no. 5th Question: What is the difference
between the brain and the mind? What is the difference
between the brain and the mind? This is a very complex question. We know what the brain is. The scientists are saying now there is the left side of the brain
and the right side of the brain. The left side of the brain
is used daily. I won’t go into all the details of it,
you can read it if you want to. I haven’t read it, but some friends who are scientists
have told me about it. The left side of the brain
is in operation, activity, functioning with all
the daily activity. And the right side of the brain is not operating fully,
not functioning fully because the right side of the brain
is much more intelligent, much more acute,
much more aware. And also the brain is the centre
of all action and reaction, of all the sensory responses – this is what the speaker is saying. So, the brain contains, or has
the whole content of consciousness. Consciousness is your belief,
your faith, your name, your faculty, capacity, all the memories, all the hurts,
pleasure, pain, agony, struggle, all that,
affection and so on, all that is the content
of your consciousness. The content of your
consciousness is you, is the self, is the ‘me’. That content of consciousness may
invent a super-super-consciousness, or invent various kinds of
unimagined or imagined states, but it is still within the content
of your consciousness. Do we see this? You – you are your name, your body, your anger, your greed,
your competition, your ambition, your pleasure, your pain and so on, affection, all that – you are that. And that means the content
of your consciousness. The content of your
consciousness is the past – past memories, past incidents, all kinds of activities, experiences
– you are the past. You are knowledge, which is the past. So, that is the brain. We are saying – and the speaker
may be wrong, and he has discussed this matter
with several so-called scientists, and even then, the speaker
may be wrong, please don’t accept what he says, doubt what he says,
question, enquire. He says, the brain is the whole
limited consciousness with all its content – pleasant, unpleasant,
ugly, beautiful, struggle, all that is the content. And the mind is something
totally separate from the brain. The mind is outside the brain
– the speaker is saying, the scientists are not saying that. The speaker says
the brain is one thing and mind is something
entirely different. The brain with all its content, with its struggles,
with its pain, anxieties, can never know, understand
the beauty of love. Love is limitless. It is not, ‘I love one person only’,
it is too vast, too tremendous. And the brain with all its
conflicts, miseries, confusion, cannot comprehend or hold
or be alive to love – only the mind, which is limitless. So there is a difference
between the brain and the mind. Then what the questioner
doesn’t ask, there is still a further question
involved in this: what is the relationship then
between the mind and the brain? The brain is limited, limited because it is made up
of all kinds of separate parts, fragmented, broken up, and therefore it is in constant
state of struggle, conflict. Whereas the mind is totally
out of that category. There is a relationship only
when the brain is completely free, if that is possible, from all
the content of its memories. This requires a great deal
of enquiry, sensitivity. Intelligence is not of the brain. The intelligence of thought cannot
contain the intelligence of the mind. You understand all this? Does somebody understand
what I am talking about? No, all right. Look, sirs, be very simple, because if one can be very simple
you can go very far. But if you begin with lots of
complex theories and conclusions you are stuck there,
so let’s be very simple. Your daily life – going to the office,
working, working, working, money, trained in certain disciplines as a lawyer, surgeon, businessman,
or a cook or whatever it is – your brain is being
narrowed down, limited. If I am a physicist I spend years
and years learning about physics, studying it, investigating,
research into it, so my brain is naturally, through
this peculiar culture that we have, is being narrowed down. There are two scientists here,
they agree. And our brain has become
mechanical, routine, small, because we are so concerned
with ourselves, always living in a very small area
of like, dislike, pain, sorrow, and all the rest of it. But the mind is something
entirely different. You cannot understand or comprehend
the nature of that mind if your brain is limited. You cannot understand the limitless
when your life is limited. So that is the relationship – the relationship between the brain
and the mind can only take place when the brain
is free from its content. This is a complex question,
it requires much more going into but we haven’t the time for it. 6th Question: What is faith? What is faith? Faith in God, faith. I have faith in my wife,
she won’t betray me. I have faith in my husband. I have faith in my business. Faith. The whole Christendom, all the religious structure
and nature of Christianity is based on faith. And there they do not question, they do not have doubt, scepticism. If you have faith in God
then you cannot possibly allow any form of scepticism,
doubt to enter, or in the Islamic world. But in the Hindu world
and in the Buddhist world doubt is one of the necessary
qualities to cleanse the brain. You have faith,
haven’t all of you, belief? Have you ever questioned
your belief, your faith and your illusions? Or you just accept them. When you have faith you have put aside altogether
any question of investigation. Suppose I believe in God, believe, have faith in God, then every question, every doubt
must be set aside because my belief in God
is based on fear. I don’t know what the world is,
somebody has created it, and I like to think
God has created it, that’s one kind of belief. The scientists say
there is no such thing as God, it is a natural growth of evolution
from the cell into the very complex cells
of the human brain. So, why do we have faith? Isn’t that very restricting,
narrowing down, limiting, and doesn’t faith divide people? The Christians’ faith
and Islamic faith, and the Hindus who probably have
no faith about anything at all, and so there is constant conflict
between them all. You see, there is also another
complex question involved in this: why do we have ideals? The whole communist world is based on the theoretical
supposition of Marx, Stalin and so on, Lenin.
They are their gods. And they believe
in what they have said as Christians believe in what
the Bible says, or the Koran, or you with your Gita,
Upanishads or something else. You are all absorbing
what the books say, but you never for yourself
question the whole thing. Because the moment
you question, doubt, you have to rely on yourself,
and therefore you are frightened. Therefore much better to have
faith in something illusory, something that doesn’t
really actually exist. But if you know for yourself,
I have to understand my own life, I have to see if it is possible to bring about a great
revolution in my life, then you start from there. But if you have faith in something, you are living in an extraordinarily
illusory world. You have got a lot of questions. 7th Question:
If human consciousness is one, how is it that one person is happy
and the other is unhappy? Also you say thought is ‘me’.
Please show me how. If human consciousness is one, how is it that one person is happy
and the other, unhappy? Also you say thought is me –
please show me how. Are you happy? And why is another unhappy? You are born rich, your grandfathers and grandparents
have left you a factory or a business, and you are quite happy with it. And another is born
in a little village, uneducated, toiling day after day
on a piece of earth which is the size of this room,
or half the size of this hall, working on it, living on a pittance
and he is unhappy, he doesn’t know about happiness
or unhappiness, he is working, working, working. Does happiness depend
on circumstances, on work, on what you are doing, or on your satisfaction
in doing something? What do you call happiness,
and what do you call unhappiness? Happiness can be said
that when you are satisfied. I am satisfied in doing something
and feel very happy about it. And I am not satisfied
in doing something and I am very unhappy about it. Is satisfaction synonymous
with happiness? And am I seeking
continuously satisfaction? Which means I am seeking
all the time gratification and I will be happy. Or is happiness something
that comes and goes, that is a by-product,
it is not very important? And also the questioner asks, thought is ‘me’, show me how. What do you mean ‘show you how’? On a screen in a television? Or make a diagram? Or show you verbally? Which is, you accept intellectually if
the speaker explains, thought is ‘me’. Would you understand it? The speaker will explain,
that is, he will describe, he will explain step by step. And will you see the truth of it, or say, ‘No, that is not the self.
Self is something far superior. It is divine, it is atman,
it is something else’. So how will you receive
an explanation? Knowing the explanation,
the description, the word, is not the thing? The window, the word ‘window’
is not the actual window. I can paint a mountain but the
painting is not the actual mountain. So we can go into this together.
I can’t show it to you. I can’t put it on a screen,
television, and show it to you; there it is. But if we can together investigate,
if you are willing. If you are bored with it,
all right, be bored with it. So let us together find out. What are you? If you are really frank, serious,
when that question is put to you, what are you? Aren’t you your name? aren’t you your face,
your eyes, your nose, your hair and so on, physically? Aren’t you the anger,
aren’t you the greed, or the greed is separate from you? Aren’t you, when there is anxiety,
aren’t you that anxiety? When you are suffering, suffering when one loses
one’s wife, husband, children, or grandmother, etc.,
are you not suffering? And is that suffering
something separate from you? Aren’t you all that? Or do you think – think –
that you are separate from all that? Right, sir? Are you separate from all that? Are you separate from your anger,
jealousy, from your bank account? You are your bank account,
aren’t you? Or if I take away your bank account
you say, ‘That’s not me’. Would you say that? ‘You can take my bank account
because it is not me’. How you would howl
if I took away your bank account. So you are your bank account,
you are your furniture, you are your house, your insurance,
your mortgage, your money. But if you say, ‘I am not all that, there is something in me
that is watching all this’, is that a fact? Or you have invented it? Many people say there is
super-super-consciousness above all this consciousness. That is, is that not
invented by thought? Is not your bank account
– not the coin, not the notes – all that is not
the result of thought? Is not your recognition
of your wife, your husband, isn’t that thought? So aren’t you all the memory
of the past, all the tradition of the past – as a Hindu, as a Brahmin,
non-Brahmin, and all that business
– aren’t you all that? Of course you are. So, you are the knowledge
which is the past. You are nothing but memories. Would you accept that? Of course not. Aren’t you? If all your memories were
taken away, what are you? You would be a vegetable. So your memories, which is
always the past, is what you are. Your tradition, as a Hindu,
as a Parsi, as a Muslim and so on, that’s the result of years of
propaganda, years of tradition, which is the activity of thought. So you are thought. If you don’t think at all,
what are you? So you are the whole
content of the past. That past is modifying
itself in the present and continues as the future. So you are the past,
the present and the future. In you all time is contained. Oh, you don’t understand all this. And the self, the ‘me’, my name,
my quality, my achievement, my ambition, my pain,
my sorrow, is all the past. And so the self is
the essence of the past, which is memory, knowledge. And therefore the self
is very, very limited. And that’s why the self is causing
so much mischief in the world. Each self is out for itself. You are out for your
own self, aren’t you? If you were honest, see this clearly,
aren’t you out for yourself? Your ambition, your achievement,
your fulfilment, your satisfaction. So thought is you. Thought is limited,
because all knowledge is limited. Therefore your self
is the most limited thing. And therefore you are causing
enormous sorrow, enormous conflict, because the self is
separative, divisive. So, sirs, the speaker has explained.
The explanation is not the fact. The fact is for you
to see this for yourself. If you see this for yourself and say,
‘I like the way I am going on’, perfectly all right. But you know for yourself that you
are creating havoc in the world, and you prefer to live that way,
good luck to you. But there might be some who say
that is not the way to live. One must live with a global brain, without any division,
without any nationality, without any self. Don’t make that into some kind
of heightened illumination only a few can reach. Anybody
who sets his brain and heart to understand the nature of the self and be free of that self, anybody can do it
if they put their mind. Right, sir. May I answer one more question?
After that we’ll stop. It’s ten o’clock. Probably you have to go to your
own jobs and all the rest of it… …Ten past ten, sorry. One more
question and that’s the end of it. Oh, I’ve answered this question. 8th Question: If the great religions
of the world are not religions,
what is then religion? That’s the question. It is not printed clearly. If the great religions of the world
are not true religions, what is true religion? Why do you say, ‘if’ the great
religions are not true religions? Why do you say ‘if’? Are they religions? You answer that question. You all go to temples probably. You have all had marriage ceremonies
and puja, etc. Are they religions? Great religions; Christianity,
Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, are they religions? Which is, their rituals,
their hierarchy, their faith, belief, their going to temple and
offering enormous sums of money to some things made by hand
or by the mind, which you call God, is all that religion? You accept it as religion. But if you question, doubt, then you begin to ask, obviously these things
are all put together by thought. The Bible, the Koran and your own
so-called religious books, they are all put down by thought. They are not divine revelations, they are not straight
from God’s mouth. I know you love to think that. But thought has operated
and put down on a piece of paper, and then you accept it as something
extraordinarily sacred. So, if you brush aside all that,
and that requires scepticism, a sense of freedom to observe, freedom from fear, totally from fear, then you can find out for yourself
what is religion. That is, is there something sacred, not invented by thought,
not measured by words, is there something
that is immeasurable, timeless? This has been a question
from the ancient of times. The ancient Egyptians, the Greeks, all the great past civilizations
have asked this question: is there something beyond all this
which thought has not invented? Which thought has not touched? Because thought can be measured. Thought is a material process, and whatever it invents
is not sacred. So to find that out the brain must be
entirely free from its content, from fear, from anxiety, from the sense of terrible loneliness,
from death. Then only you will find out
what is truth, what is the highest form of religion.

100 thoughts on “Is it necessary to marry in life? What’s the physical relationship between man & woman? Krishnamurti

  1. What absolute twaddle! How is this any improvement over what anyone knows. I am currently reading 'Freedom From the Known' and all I can say is it is pretty banal. I had high hopes.

  2. Only a divided mind can be conquered – FACT! A lie can project itself over The Truth but a limited entity can't conceal that which is Eternal/Whole. Ego is restricted to emotional-words that point to illusion. If a person truly intends to be free it begins with the freedom TO LOOK AT YOUR MIND & ITS MANY DECEPTIONS TO AVOID SEEING WHAT IT IS EMOTIONALLY DOING. U can't copy what K points to. U can only LOOK or not. Those who refuse to LOOK either hiss or bow down & nothing comes of that nonsense.

  3. Plenty of geniuses had their work stolen and were silenced. K. couldn't be destroyed because he saw the false without opposition. A phony can easily be destroyed. K. had no weapon or body guards and he took long walks in the wilderness alone. There were plenty of chances to kill him. And he exposed powerful groups. The only reason they couldn't touch him is because he was living outside of conflict. Conflict can only destroy conflict. It can't destroy anyone who is not divided within. 

  4. K. can only describe what is involved in the inward-journey but no man can take that journey to bring about holistic clarity for another man. When the ego (the emotional-mind of “like & dislike”) hears a message that it cannot dominate or destroy it behaves like a spoiled brat and throws a temper tantrum and declares that the message is bogus. Look if his message was truly hollow he could have easily been murdered and silenced and his message could have been demolished.

  5. Most humans are too lazy and fearful to deeply explore themselves. For thousands of years we have been programmed to “follow-the-leader”. Don't look for ourselves. Don't test anything out. Let the other guy, the so-called “savior” deliver us from our mundane, boring lives. Thought creates its own mess then it expects someone else to be responsible for clearing it up. Life does not work like that. K. looked at his conditioning and fixed his mess. Now others expect him to fix their mess.

  6. What destroys ones ability to actually listen & learn from it is the mechanical emotional knee-jerk reaction to condemn anything we don't like to hear and to praise what is said in hopes that it will in some way enhance our lives. Humans are trained to copy info and receive their reward (like a trained dog doing tricks). K. is challenging our mind to find out if it can do something wholly different so that we may emerge as real intelligent beings, not just robots following orders.

  7. I really recommend to everyone who likes Krishnamurti's work to read a book called The Present at Truth Contest. It changed my life and can change yours.

  8. "Progressives" and "liberals" would find Krishnamurti too hard to comprehend – despite the simplicity of such truths. Even with our "progression" in the context of marriage, most people just don't understand how we truly relate to one another.

  9. Wow!! I have read his book "Freedom from the known". I have never seen such an intelligent man. It struck a chord with me when he said "You exploit her, she exploits you". Though subtle, this is true indeed. Why people marry? They want something from each other. Men primarily want sex and women want financial security(In most cases). There is this another need of psychological security as well. Fundamentally, all this is hollow. Because there is no security. Thank you for this video.

  10. After listening to this video I wrote this piece in my blog called, "What Is Marriage Really About?"

  11. J. Krishnamurti: "In this relationship between man and woman, there is no love" (3.27)

    Lord Byron: "For he who loves another loves himself
    even for that other's sake"
    (Sardanapalus: Act 1, 487)

  12. Sooner or later his words will not strike strong enough to shake your core. His teachings are like that old hammer which has lost the sharpness to chop the wood to its very bottom. Who am i to judge? well I am the guy who has already suffered from this kind of teachings spoken by many "gurus" in same fashion and same words and by same answers. They are nothing except for those who are just seeking verbal answers so to speak to kill their hunger of intellect.You are making their explanations yours. Though this hammer will still make a cut but won't make deep impression.

  13. With all due respect Jiddu, yes, it is. God said, "Be fruitful and multiply."

    The physical relationship between man and woman is about celebrating the joy of filling the void in each other's lives. This begins with an emotional/spiritual union and ends with physical consummation.

  14. I will never get bored of listening to this man speak, like bruce lee he is helping me find my own way by asking myself the right questions. you are the teacher you are the student you are the everything.

  15. Long lasting relation between husband and wife leads to a sexsual relationship. This is not love!! Trough celybaty know the loneliness. A lonely man really loves!! This is a haelthy relationship between husband and wife.

  16. He is speaking of his observations, describing the way we are doing these relationships. He is discussing an observable truth: our bonding is motivated by our insecurities. The insecurity on the micro level between two people reflect the insecurity on the macro level of relationships such as the relationship between states and nations. The observation is that the motivation behind all this bonding in relationship is insecurity. He is not prescribing, telling us what to do or what's available for us to experience. His intention is to shed light on the plague, the conflict, at the root of our social conditioning. We are all love. This is our true nature. But we stand in our way. The insecurity is self imposed, personally and collectively. There will always be conflict as long as we are divided on any level. There will always be conflict where there is exploitation. Fear is self-centered. We are afraid so we bond and divide into self-centered, nations. We are afraid of each other. There is a whole other field without the insecurity where we can truly bond as love. When this arises we will experience this inside and out. But to get to this field we must recognize and acknowledge the character of the place where we are. We need a starting point. We need to start from a place of radical honesty and humility.

  17. JKs method to get across the truth is exemplary. He draws into the presence by repeating the question, then what comes out from him is out of the box. Yes, marriage is the microcosm of society, and it is like a season in existence. His word "complexity" serves in different ways. physical relationship in the youth and companionship in the later stages. "Love" is an important factor which everyone agrees, it's how you treat your partner as an extension of yourself rather than the other. The needs then get dissolved into one. So , its a matter of choice to get into the system that facilitates social construct or stay away. No story is the same for everyone, depends on the divine providence, and the urge that responds to it.

  18. This question reminds me of a joke our Japanese tour guide told us when the question of the distinction between their Shintoism and Buddhism was raised. He told us when Japanese have physical, mundane questions, e.g: will I marry well? Bless me for a son; Give me the promotion I deserve; I need 1 million$ (well, Japanese probably asked for 1 trillion Yen) by my next birthday, etc., they went to Shinto temples. But when they have philosophical, core human questions, they went to Buddhist temples to ask Buddha ( I imagine Buddhist temples should be empty during WWII if they really understood Buddhism). I don't know if the questioner got K's between the line meaning of security? We have the treasure of being so free and brilliant intrinsically yet we beg for this false security, this physical conditional love. Like Buddha said, licking the honey along the edge of the sword!

  19. the problem is people always want an answer when there isn't one needed nor can there be only 1 answer look up the venus project and learn as well from jacque fresco on many things we consider human nature but are simply human behaviour

  20. Well having read few comments and of those who questions his teaching! To those I say you still are entangeled in wordly doctrines. All you want is exact Yes or No answer and all the while his very fundamental teaching is experience yourself, know thyself, liberate yourself. Well I can best tell you is by example of teachers. You are seeking for Pre-school teacher who can answer your childish question and whatever be the answer right or wrong you accept it happily because you get what you have asked for and to you your teacher is a hero but Krishnamurti is a Professor and if you are to get his concept you have to be Phd. student. He gives and shows directions and research is your own. So find it out. Alan Watts, Bruce Lee to name few admires him caz they know the depth of his teachings.

  21. Hij weet ook niets zoals ik, dat hij zich hierin wil verdiepen. Socrates is de man naar mijn denken, ik weet dat ik weet dat ik niets weet. Dit is de enige verklaring van alles wat is.

  22. "We have the treasure of being so free and #brilliant intrinsically yet we beg 4 false security, the physical conditional love of marriage." – corpus callosum

  23. We desire an answer when there isn't one needed. Many things we consider human nature are simply a human "behavior". We are drawn to marriage by a force, but the force is not divine, it is a force of habit. Marriage offers temporary, false security and many conditions develop in marriage, often right at the start of courting, as expectations and conditions are being set into stone. This is not "unconditional" love and thusly it has no kin to freedom. True Real Love is freedom. You let it go free, it frees you, you need not possess or contain the flower to love it fully or properly.

  24. It is his opinion you are not at home with anybody. There is a chance, like any other chance, that you can be. How mediocre this is, depends on the chemistry and Interest.

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  26. Wow, it gives me strength every time I listen to this man. Going through breakup and this gives me some relief.

  27. When this question been asked to me, I would been answered "those who are in hunger and thirst can say sorry and marry rest of them will sustain with their yogic stability"

  28. The original idea about marriage was that to bond forever because love is bonding us forever. That's why the ring symbolise a circle. The holy union because if we feel love and we are together in that state of love it is all we need. Therefore we will be anyway bond for all lifes. So when we have everything we need we want only each other if we are in this kind of holy state in relationship so we decide to be always together because we are complete. And sharing that with someone else is not possible. There is so much more to this subject but another time. That was the original idea. Now ppl have no idea what they are doing.

  29. marry someone who understands that soon you'll be bored with each other so having a casual encounter with another once in a while is not really a problem for both of you. maybe all of you can indulge in an orgy once in a while and explore the economic angle implicit in such arrangements for a luxurious and ever creative lifestyle.

    once married or technically living together the best way is to not spend too much time together in the same apartment. so ensure that you have atleast two nesting places to dunk in and see each other at cleverly spaced intervals.

  30. Even this earth plane is not alone. It is married to the universe. This is why all its species procreate through physical and non-physical activities.
    Also, each individual has a certain abilities than other where one support the other for completion.

  31. kirpa kare koi bhai.screen per hindi me bhi likhdu .me bhi samajh saku ye kiya bol rahe hay ji.ho sake tu sabhi video hindi me kar de

  32. He looks like a woman…no doubt men who have real Inner beauty look like women in old age , their face reflecting d softness , gentleness of a woman😊

  33. He is giving shock for every asleep man or woman without any expectation he was really a blessed one or enlightened one.

  34. JK was an enlightened person and master. his style a bit dry and serious. His answer simply states marriage is using each other which is true. One never conquers loneliness with marriage.

  35. So true.. "If thr is no love.. You use her and she uses you, you exploit her and she exploits you" totally agree

  36. He was born in madanapalli of andhra pradesh but not even a single person of that are I've met knows him….such a shame…all r behind honey singh..

  37. Wow,what a profound understanding he had,jiddu Krishnamurti always introduces us with unprecedented approaches.

  38. In all your lectures,i always be waiting for your one smile…because the way you smile that can heals anyone's heart…respect 💝

  39. We all are frightened and don't want to be alone. We seek Companionship, sexual needs, safety and security.
    We got what we wanted, mostly, but lost our Peace of Mind.

  40. marriage is one of those institutions of human life meant to unite, build and create stable societies rooting from a marriage unit set up as part of those binding forces of a progressive society, marriage in the traditional sense of the word is more good than bad, it is good but not the best, has room for development, that is why we see marriage laws changing and so on and so forth because it involves a lot, involves children and families and money and norms etc Sometimes these changing laws stengthen but sometimes they weaken this institution… But overall, the intentions are usually good

  41. Friend: Is it necesary to fall in love?

    Me: Mmm… Yes, I'm in love with dogs…
    *Careless Whisper plays*

    Me: ∠( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)」∠)__

    Friend: Oooooookaaay

  42. True conjugal relationship is rare, final home is seen in someone by another one when both of them have not dwelled in other temporary things and therefore have developed infinite affinity for each other. Lover is someone who is to stay with beloved forever, transcending the limits of time and place.

  43. I married twice, and I say No, unless you want a child and have tested the marriage 2 years. We can only rely on God.

  44. Well ,did Krishnamurti ask his father and mother this question before he was born? In other words did he couldn't speak or write all the words and books he wrote without his mommy? Go figure! Is it nessesary?

  45. J.K. Starts out with: “Good Lord…I don’t know, what a strange question… you have to know, what a strange question…”

    Seconds later: dives deep into it

    Laughs again at question and says it’s up to you…. Dives deep again to answer that same source of every question asked of him

    Classic J.K. Style

  46. I read The First and Last Freedom back in the 80's which had a profound effect on me at the time.☺

    Fortunately I'm never lonely anymore, though I am alone , most of the time.

    When I meet people casual strangers it is always a joy.🌞

  47. why is taking a long to explain such silly questions, if you want to live like an animal, then marraiage is not necessary at all, if you want live like human its better marry

  48. His reply is mostly correct but not fully. In a marriage, adjustments and compromises are necessary. And it is horrible to say that wife exploits the husband and the husband exploits the wife. If that happens, there is no more marriage, and it would be divorce.

  49. who falls in love is silly, and after that who marry, that person is stupid 😀
    in conclusion who marry is stupid. and this is human nature 🙂 I tested for 20 years. than saw that I am stupid and also the person I married is also another stupid. than I realize that, who marrried are also stupids 🙂

  50. as a christian from Botswana, i like reading and listening to words of wisdom and so far, Krishnamurti is the wiseman, the way he answers and teaches proves hes a great soul, and the bible talks about three wisemen from the east, eastern philosophy is often rich of wisdom

  51. This "part of life" really bothers me for a long time. I dont know. I am not just into romantic love. It's too small. The world there is too small. It's like you are limiting yourself to universal love. And by involving yourself to a romantic relationship, you don't get to discover your highest potential as a human being.

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